Roommate/my best friend here up until recently comes back to the room shitfaced and crying again and beating on himself. Yep. Guess we're having that fucking talk real soon. He's out of control, self destructing and turning into an asshole and it's been straight pissing me off.
Also I want to make it clear. Partying/Drinking=/=inherently bad. But I can spot the difference between "just having fun" and...not. This is the beginning of a problem.
Christ man, I thought it'd never fucking come to this.
That's probably a part of it. He doesn't tell me shit. What I know, I know from his hometown friends, who are equally concerned about him. Dude has a lot of issues. But it's gotten worse. In the last few months he's been behaving differently and becoming someone else. Hes been spiraling and at this point I don't know what else to do. I'm just wildly angry and frustrated with him. I'll talk to him but I doubt he'll take me seriously.
It's kind of annoying seeing the media and rando white chick's hype up women like Kim Kardashian, Amber Rose, Emily Ratajkowski and other unemployed barely working women as feminists.
As far as I know, the extent of their feminism is basically having sex with people with no shame and being naked all day.
I don't have a problem with that but it gives a shallow view of feminism and they don't address issues like income inequality, Healthcare, women in STEM, and a slew of other issues.
Maybe they are too dumb to address these issues but I feel like their image and voices drown out more substantial voices who address what they address and more.
To me, what makes feminism great, is the fact that anyone can be one - there should be no kind of selectivity when it comes to that, no woman, as long as she agrees with the ideals and seems like an objectively good person, is "not good enough" to be a feminist role model. They're free individuals, they're allowed to live their lives how they want - I personally may not always agree or relate to that, but no one really should be putting them down if they're not doing anything mean. And I especially don't want to associate their sex lives or appearance with something that is shameful or borderline whorish - women already have a stupidly huge stigma around this, and there's a shit ton of hypocrisy when it comes to this.
Femism basically appreciates and celebrates ALL kinds of women and all kinds of choices they make, as long as they're made in free will, that's imo the most important thing. I honestly hate this stem student = perfect feminist role model superiority bullshit. The fact that I'm not one has caused a ton of self loathing moments for me, like I'm not good enough or am unintelligent, because it seems like a necessity if you want to be seen as good enough of a woman.
To me at least, it just seems really shallow and it lacks conviction. Heck, on a recent episode of Keeping up with the Kardashians, Kim Kardashian slut shames a woman Scott slept with in Dubai. In so many of her essays, she would talk about how against slut shaming she is.
Obviously there is no ideal face of feminism and being a STEM person doesn't mean that you're the be all end all of feminism. My issue with this overall is that it does not seem genuine to me and it's just shallow and leaves you feeling devoid of any feeling. Kim Kardashian can take nude pics all she wants and parade around naked, but I feel like she would laugh at a fat woman who does the same thing. Emily Ratajkowski can enjoy her life of constant parties and pretty makeup and endorse Bernie Sanders all day long, but she's not going to be there when people make ugly comments about Michelle Obama and other black women or old women in politics (she was really eager to defend Melania Trump though and Melania is a woman who is pretty complicit with her husband's presidency. Ratajkowski failed to address the more important issue with this and just went after what a journalist said in a private conversation). I should also mention, these women are hypocritical because they can say all this stuff about empowering women and how women should not be judged, but then they turn around and work for magazines or fashion brands that contribute the high standards we place on women in society. Want to really make a statement? Don't model for Calvin Klien. Don't post for GQ magazine. At some point their activism becomes laughable and highly hypocritical.
My problem overall is that these women do not seem genuine and their feminism is very very exclusive to "rich women with great bodies".
Brie Larson is an amazing woman who does a great job of being genuine and having inclusive feminism. I would like to see Marie Claire contacting her to write essays as opposed to the women I listed.
Yeah I agree. It's just that I don't really keep up with said celebrities (or celebs in general most of the time), so I'm not always "up to date" with whatever crap they do. It's shitty and it's sad that they're not using their higher profiles to bring up important topics or address problematic stuff, but on the other hand - no one can force them to. And it's okay to be honest. Most of the time people are somewhat able to see through others' bullshit, which is why generally certain celebs have certain reputations? Once again, not here to put anyone down, but I mean Kim's probably never going to be known to be a philantropist and a human rights activist?
In a perfect world we'd be able to "silence" (lol sounds horrible but it's not what I mean) all the shitty people so that all views and ideas are represented fairly and accurately. But that's just not possible. That's why people just shouldn't take most celebs seriously, unless you know them. They're just people. It's really hard sometimes to do with younger and more impressionable crowds, especially nowadays, like it seems like teens just straight up jump at the most flashy and edgy stuff and people, like "yaaaaaas queen slaaaaay" lmao. Or am I getting old lol?
Which brings me to another, unrelated topic - WHY do people love Jeffree Star. Wtf
Besides, there's a shit ton of hypocrisy among the more "perfect" celebrity role models who don't really care about whatever cause they're representing, and are just doing it for karma points.
Ruth wrote:Yeah I agree. It's just that I don't really keep up with said celebrities (or celebs in general most of the time), so I'm not always "up to date" with whatever crap they do. It's shitty and it's sad that they're not using their higher profiles to bring up important topics or address problematic stuff, but on the other hand - no one can force them to. And it's okay to be honest. Most of the time people are somewhat able to see through others' bullshit, which is why generally certain celebs have certain reputations? Once again, not here to put anyone down, but I mean Kim's probably never going to be known to be a philantropist and a human rights activist?
Yeah no one can force them to speak on other things that relate to feminism. And I totally get that it's okay. I see a lot of their stuff on my Facebook timeline and I do see a lot of people going "YAAAAAASSSSSS TELL 'EM!!!!!!!!" and to myself I'm just like "Okay, I know for a fact women in India or Syria aren't going to care about Kim K fighting for the right to take nudes. Women who can't get affordable healthcare don't give a fuck if some journalist called Melania a slut in a private conversation. We give a fuck about her having a god awful husband who is going to screw shit up and how she's complict."
I myself just want to see more substantial feminists getting the spotlight these women get.
In a perfect world we'd be able to "silence" (lol sounds horrible but it's not what I mean) all the shitty people so that all views and ideas are represented fairly and accurately. But that's just not possible. That's why people just shouldn't take most celebs seriously, unless you know them. They're just people. It's really hard sometimes to do with younger and more impressionable crowds, especially nowadays, like it seems like teens just straight up jump at the most flashy and edgy stuff and people, like "yaaaaaas queen slaaaaay" lmao. Or am I getting old lol?
Which brings me to another, unrelated topic - WHY do people love Jeffree Star. Wtf
It's kind of hard not to take celebs seriously. Their words get circulated everywhere and really impressionable kids look up to them. But I think parents do need to take on the responsibility and go through what's out there in the media with their kids and tell them that maybe so-and-so is not a good role model.
Ugh for real he is such a piece of shit. I hate Jeffree.
Besides, there's a shit ton of hypocrisy among the more "perfect" celebrity role models who don't really care about whatever cause they're representing, and are just doing it for karma points.
I know for a fact that I still struggle with hypocrisy in my own feminism. Shit man, I buy makeup and therefore give into the capitalist structure that tells women to look better.
